A few years later for a wedding, then the enormous expense of having and raising children, then — okay, okay, relationships can be expensive, we get it in many relationships, there’s a big expense at the beginning for dating, then a big expense! The cost of dating often has both a longer duration and a wider range than it does in monogamous relationships, as people use dating as a way to build bonds with multiple partners in polyamorous relationships.
Remember that there are lots of forms of polyamory; there’s the triad, where three folks are in a relationship
(as illustrated above by our lovely — and canon — Leverage triad, or in The Toast’s brilliant essay “Fit For a King: A Queer Poly Triad purchases a Bed Off Craigslist”), there are certain variations in the notion of a “primary” partner and “secondary” lovers, and there are additionally poly relationships that don’t add those forms of labels. (mais…)